My story is a bit strange as I was the HR manager for the Group so I had to coordinate my own redundancy. I knew that the organization would get to a point where a snr practitioner was no longer required and that reducing staffing numbers would mean that we didn't need two HR people in the grup. My assistant was a capable and competent individual that could step into the void and manage the administrative and operational challenges that would be left after the restructuring and downsizing of the group.

My emotions went from xment to "what am I doing?" Some days I couldn't wait to move forward and other days I felt frozen and confused. Anxiety and sleep issues also became apparent. I had outplacement support and professional supervision through the process. I knew what my path forward would be and had an exit strategy in place, however, not being clear on the exact timing was very stressful. The dates changed several times until I knew when I would go. I felt like I was in limbo. Once the call was made and the deal signed, it was like a wx lifted from my shoulders.

My plan was to have a bit of a break as I had been working long hours and in very stressful circumstances so I wanted some time to breath and soak in some fresh air - re-energise. I had decided to pursue my coaching practice which had been in action concurrently with my fulltime employment both as a lifestyle choice and a way to tap into my strengths and areas of interest.

My advice for others is to understand that grieving and transitioning process. Often people define themselves by their work and once that is taken away they feel lost and at sea. All emotions we feel are valid and normal - they might be alient to us, butt hey are still valid.Getting a clear understanding of where you are at financially, emotionally, environmentally and physically is a good way to start. My theory is "how do you know where you are heading if you don't know whre you are now?" Taking stock can take away the fear of what to do next and clears the mind in readiness for the exciting new opportunities that will be around the corner. All the things that can cause you to freeze in fear become lessened because you know what it is you are facing.

Seeking support and assistance from others is important. Whether it is through outplacement services, getting a referral to a counselor via a GP or seeking the services of a life coach, having an independent third party that can view your situation with empathy and a fresh perspective will assist the trantisional process and keep you focused on where you are going. God luck with the article, I look forward to seeing other people's comments.

Posted by Mary-Leigh Sheerhoorn